3/26/2005 - Stilly

I went out with my friend Stilly last night. For those who don't know the significance of Stilly -

Stilly and I have done two seriously major websites together, each one the product of months worth of the two of us coding like the vicious code monkeys we are. Stilly was the yin to my yang and the yang to my yin, and we had perfected the "no look pass" while coding. We could work completely independently for weeks, and then merge our work together into a working product in a little over an hour. For those who don't code, this takes an incredibly compatible mindset. Stilly is on my list of the ten coolest people in the entire universe, and I'm including famous people and historical figures in this list.

We have both agreed that, while we are both heterosexual, if we got hit with a gay-ray, it's on. That's how cool this cat is.

I have not seen Stilly in years, so I guess we should have spent time catching up on what's been going on, but we just talked about "nothing stuff" like we always have. As an example, we discussed the differences between conflict resolution with a woman, and conflict resolution with a man.

With a woman, there's a big talk. These were the feelings, this is why we felt this way, this is what happened that caused this other thing to happen, and this is what it was perceived as. This discussion could last hours, and, once it's over, we end up feeling a little more confused than when it started.

With a man...
"We cool?"
"Yeah."

Stilly shared a piece of deep wisdom with me, as well. "Reality is that which, when you stop believing in it, it's still there." That's a nice litmus test to decide what are the important things to focus on. Plus it's kinda funny.